What are some general strategies to enhance intimacy and sexuality?

Some practical suggestions to optimize sexual functioning include limiting alcohol consumption, avoiding all tobacco, and delaying sexual activity until 2 or more hours after drinking alcohol or eating. See your healthcare provider and get a checkup to rule out underlying diseases that can affect your sexual response cycle. If you are taking medications, have them reassessed. If you take pain medications, perhaps try taking them 30 to 45 minutes before planned sexual activity. Keeping pain to a minimum is critical.

Some practical environmental changes that you can make is to preplan sexual activity. Intimacy should occur when your energy level is at its peak, fatigue is at a minimum, and your symptoms from chronic medical diseases are at their lowest. Often, intimate morning encounters are better because each partner may be well rested and sexual hormonal levels are at their highest. Take care to avoid the extremes of temperature. Try to experiment with pillows to ensure comfort while enjoying new, exciting sexual positions. You should not forget the importance of general health maintenance, so try a healthy, well-balanced diet, sleep well, and enjoy regular aerobic exercise.

The progression of intimacy is often seen as physical closeness (spending time together), emotional togetherness (sharing intimate thoughts and desires—what is your 5-year plan together as a couple?), sensual intimacy (nonthreatening sensual activities, such as erotic showers, outercourse[1], massage, and touching each other in pleasurable ways), and finally, sexual coupling or erotic sexual behavior with foreplay and intercourse. Try starting by spending time together and make spending time as a couple a priority; take a walk, have a date, or organize your hectic calendars so that you have special time together that is focused on your partnership. Put financial concerns, mortgage, and work issues on the back burner and focus on what brought you together and what your future goals will be. Plan romantic getaways, fantasize about the future. Be spontaneous. Try to be together even when apart: brief calls, love notes in lunch bags, or computer chats can help closeness even when travel separates you as a couple intercourse; fondling, touching, kissing, oral and genital play are often considered outercourse. It can be promoted as a means of sexual activity that prevents unwanted pregnancy and that can minimize sexually transmitted diseases.

Next plan some sensual activities. An erotic shower or massage may be exciting and an activity that you have not done together in many years. Slowly progress to sexual play and do not forget foreplay and other sexual activities.

Communication in and outside of the bedroom is important to help keep a relationship and marriage alive and well.

A word about communication: communication in and outside of the bedroom is important to help keep a relationship and marriage alive and well. Some practical suggestions include these: don't argue in front of the children, think and filter your words before you speak, take some time to cool down, and make a date to chat about problems or concerns. It is important to always listen and focus, and it may be helpful to pick a time when communication will happen uninterrupted when everyone is level headed. Also, do not forget to compliment each other! Appreciate each other on a daily basis.

What are some thoughts about condoms?

An article in the lay journal The Female Patient titled "Modern Male Condoms: Not Your Father's Rubbers" is an excellent summary of new and exciting ideas concerning condoms and their use. This article details the eye-catching advertising and racy packaging that make the use of condoms more appealing and addresses many issues and complaints that consumers have. The authors also address the fact that now is the time to make condoms fashionable, both for pregnancy prevention and sexually transmitted disease prevention.

Some women may be allergic to latex or be latex sensitive and may experience itchiness or other distressing symptoms after intercourse with a condom. They may also get frequent yeast infections and be prone to other vaginal infections. For these special women, polyurethane condoms are the best choice. Also, a special lubricant with no additives can be the best option. In clinical trials, the polyurethane condom provided pregnancy protection equal to that of the latex condom but had breakage and spillage rates that were significantly higher. It is also important to remember that antifungal therapies, all vaginal antibiotic treatments that are placed intravaginally, and estrogen creams that are petroleum based may affect the integrity of condoms.

Condoms come in all shapes, colors, and sizes, and about 5% of the users in the United States complain of constriction with standard-sized condoms. For these men, newer sizes are available including magnum and extra-large. Condoms now have new flavors for oral sex; strawberry and cherry are often the favorites. All colors of the rainbow are now available for sexual visual excitement and have a wide variety of lubricants and moisturizers within their packaging. Trojan has also come out with a new exciting line and offers a wide variety of selections.

There is no better time to use condoms, both for sexual pleasure and fulfillment and also to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. For more information about condoms consult condomania.com or condomdepot.com.

Raye comments:

Condoms are talked about a lot more now than ever before. They are everywhere from magazine advertisements, commercials, bathrooms, to nurses handing them out at schools. Safe sex is being promoted and condoms are being distributed like they are a piece of gum. They come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, and textures now. Most men, even though they know they should wear one, still make excuses and hate them.

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