Is it true that African men prefer women who are fair in complexion?

That is not necessarily the case as it varies from person to person and from culture to culture. The issue of complexion is a matter of choice; as varied as African men are, so varied too are the choices of what they admire in a woman's complexion. Whereas there are some men who like fair-skinned women, there are African men too who adore women who are ebony in complexion, as they are considered very beautiful and "original" since there is no lotion that can darken the skin, whereas there are creams out there that can lighten skin color. It is hard again to be categorical here—every African man's relish is his.

Are there white people—men and women—in Africa?

There are white people in Africa, and for very many different reasons. There is the settler population, some of whom are recent settlers, whereas others are the great grandchildren of adventurers who decided to stay rather than leave after their visit in search of wealth. This is especially the case in South Africa. Then there are sojourners, who are in quest of a different lifestyle, who have moved to Africa where they are permanently resident. Some love the warmth that exists between human beings who are free and excited about greeting each other, unlike in most parts of the West, especially in the cities, where a neighbor might live for years without even knowing his or her next-door neighbor. A large number of Western women who got married to their African husbands when the husbands were studying in the West are also in Africa. There are other white men and women, like the Arabs too, who are business people and are in Africa to invest in one way or the other—bankers, oil companies, and those in the import and export trade. Yes, there are white people all over Africa.

Do women use veils when getting married in Africa?

This is another area where the meeting with the West has only made things more cumbersome for the African. The veil during weddings per se, is a typical Western wedding paraphernalia, but it is now used in Africa during Christian marriages. The point here is a question of what kind of wedding ceremony is taking place. Weddings in most African communities unfold in phases; there is first, the traditional phase of the wedding when the man officially asks the bride's family for her hand in marriage. Should things go well during this phase, which involves numerous stages, then the man and the woman are considered traditionally married. Amongst the traditional elders, those in both families, and within the traditional community, the two are at once considered a couple. But then, in order to qualify for the administration's recognition and so earn their attendant benefits due legally married couples— family allowances, housing allowances and the like—they have to present before a civil administrator and have their marriage "legalized." Even at this point, there is a third party that will still not consider such a couple married yet—the church. As a result, the man and the woman must again present before their religious authority—priest, pastor, or imam—as the case may be. Because of how long, tiring, and financially demanding these phases can be, some couples try to cut down on cost by carrying out the traditional phase first, and then they combine the civil and church phases on the same day. In this way, they eliminate the reception after the legalizing phase, which is now usually scheduled in the morning of the same day of the church wedding. There is then only one incredibly huge reception later on in the day, after the legal phase, which takes between 8:00am and 10:00am, and the church wedding, which takes place between 12:00pm and 3:00pm, on that same day. It is during this church wedding, however, that women use veils. If, during the traditional phase, the woman has to be shielded, a loin-cloth is used or any other traditional piece of cloth.

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